Be careful what you say to certain people.
I have always believed that pretty much everyone thinks they are good. They may hurt your feelings, but it comes from a place of feeling right or like they need to speak up for some greater good. It might not make sense or be right, but the intention is rarely bad. And what about people who differ from you when it comes to political opinions. They aren’t evil, they’re just doing what they think is right (even if it’s wrong). People want to do good. It’s true. I think it’s important to take a look at that intention and have more compassion for people. Yes, we should try to influence others in positive ways, but don’t give up on them.
Emotions are very powerful. It’s so easy to obsess over them or bury them deep until they make you do things you wish you hadn’t done. For that reason it’s very important to listen to your emotions and to give yourself what you need. If you feel horribly sad, let yourself feel that way for a while and listen to your emotions. Sometimes pushing them down or pretending they don’t exist is the worst thing you can do. We’re all delicate beings, no matter how strong we make ourselves look to other people.
Complaining feels so necessary when you’re all amped up and upset, but it doesn’t help anything. But really, complaining does not help. I was inspired to make this comic after reading a section in The Buddha Walks into the Office by Lodro Rinzler. In the book, he mentions another book (which I have not read) by Mindy Kaling entitled Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?
Here’s the quote that sticks with me:
Mindy Kaling describes how Steve Carell, her fellow actor on the TV show The Office, was notorious for not complaining. Despite Mindy’s best efforts, Steve could never be enticed to complain about anything or anyone. And that quality inspired her to want to be the sort of person he admires. I love that story. Simply by not complaining, he brought out the desire to act in a virtuous way. Steve Carell’s coworkers wanted to become better people simply because he would not complain.
– from The Buddha Walks into the Office, by Lodro Rinzler
How many of the best inventions and creations in the world were created by a practical mind? How many of those amazing people were safety-seeking, retirement-craving, stay under the radar type people? Don’t listen to the naysayers. Screw practical! Do what you love! Do everything you can to make your dream life a reality. Improve the world with it and improve yourself with it. Do it.
This is your life and you are the only one who truly knows what is happening in your mind and what it’s like to be you. It’s up to you to change, reinvent, improve, and define who you are. Don’t let other people tell you who you are.